Agreed - basically the car feels more sluggish, is often labouring in the wrong gear (too high) and the gearbox behaviour is messed up. My suggestion is to find an independent VAG tuning specialist who can put it back to stock. I started by asking the VW dealer what software versions were on the car before they updated it. Both ECU and TCU were updated by 23X4 and both really need to be reversed.I just took my 2017 7.5 Golf TDI to a Volkswagen dealer in Australia for a routine service. Despite asking them not to apply updates they applied an engine control unit update 23x4, and a gearbox control unit DQ381 update. Here is what I've noticed in my first 2 hours of driving:
1. From stationary to moving forward or reverse with no accelerator the car picks up a lot more speed (the RPM is higher). The stationary idle engine speed is the same as before the update. The car may feel ever so slightly faster 0-5km/h but greater brake pressure is required to stop.
2. Gears change up at slower speeds. 1st gear may hold to a slightly higher speed but 3,4,5,6, and most notably 7 engage at slower speeds. As a result the car feels a bit laggy and sluggish.
3. The gear box moves up a gear when slowing down or rolling down hills resulting in less effective engine braking. This along with point 1, I'm expecting greater brake wear.
4. The turbo doesn't seem to be as potent, there is extra lag and the car no longer feels "unstoppable" when asked for brisk acceleration. This is the most disappointing experience for me.
I guess I'll learn more as I drive further...